Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Choose Your Partner Carefully. You child's life may depend on it!

Often times a parent's partner (typically the mother's boyfriend) is left to care for children that are not their own when they lack the parenting skills and patience necessary to provide care.

 In 21% of Nevada cases, parental substance abuse was cited as the primary reason for child welfare intervention. 40% of abused children in Nevada are 3 years or younger, which is higher than the national average of 32% in the same age group.

While neglect is the most common type of maltreatment across all age groups, types of maltreatment vary by age. In 2011, about 81 percent of substantiated child maltreatment reports for children ages 0–3 involved neglect, compared with 63 percent for adolescents ages 16–17. 21% of substantiated reports for adolescents ages 16–17 involved physical abuse and 17% involved sexual abuse. Among substantiated reports for children ages 0–3, some 14% involved physical abuse and 2% involved sexual abuse.

Fortunately, not all of these incidents end in a fatality - but in order to prevent the abuse and/or neglect of children, Prevent Child Abuse Nevada, in partnership with several other community agencies, have initiated the Choose Your Partner Carefully Campaign in the state of Nevada.  


How to Choose Your Partner / Person(s) Caring for Your Child

Choosing an appropriate caregiver, including a caregiving partner, is one of the most important decisions a parent can make. Just because someone is a lover, relative, or close friend does not mean they are capable of taking care of a child.

Questions to ask yourself:
How does he/she treat other women/men in his/her life? How does he/she treat other children (nieces, nephews, friends' children, etc.)?
Does he/she get angry when you spend time with your child?
Does he/she get angry or impatient when your child cries or has a tantrum?
Does he/she call your child bad names or put them down?
Does he/she think it's funny to scare your child?
Does he/she make all the decisions for you and your child?
Does he/she put you down or tell you that you're a bad parent or that you shouldn't have your kids?
Does he/she pretend when he/she hurts your child that you are to blame or that it's no big deal?
Does he/she tell you that our child is a nuisance or annoying?
Does he/she scare your child by using guns, knives, or other weapons?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, your child could be at risk. Never leave your child with someone you don't trust to keep your child safe.

Warning Signs- Choose a person to care for your child that is NOT:

Angry or impatient when children have tantrums, cry, or misbehave.
Violent and/or controlling with his or her partner.
Abusing alcohol and drugs, including marijuana.
Using prescription medications that have bad side effects or make the person drowsy.
Untrustworthy for any reason.

Punishment or Abuse?

Could your partner be abusing your child and calling it, "punishment?" Learn to recognize the difference between punishment and abuse. It could save your child's life. Punishment runs the risk of being excessive if...

The child has a physical injury, such as bruising, broken skin, swelling, marks from an object such as an extension cord or hairbrush, a burn or a situation that requires medical attention.
The person administering the punishment means to instill fear rather than educate your child.
The person administering the punishment loses control.
The action is inappropriate for the child's age.
The action results from unreasonable demands or expectations for the child.

When Do I Know if I've Gone Too Far? Ask yourself how you feel about the punishment.
Do I feel good about this action?
Is there an important lesson to be taught?
Does the child know that the person giving the punishment loves him or her?
Is there mutual respect, or is there fear?
Are you or your partner behaving in a way you would like your child to behave?

Your child needs to know that you are in charge, but that you love and respect them. They should not fear you or your partner. Talk to your children and decide together on expectations and reasonable consequences for misbehavior.

Choose your partner carefully. Your child's life may depend on it.
Never leave your child with someone you don't trust to keep your child safe.

To Report Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect
Call: 1-800-992-5757, or
Report Online: Nevada Division of Child and Family Services



Denim Day in Winnemucca, NV 2014!!!

Are you ready, friends?! AVA-CASA is gearing up for our annual Denim Day celebration! Since 2008 we have been providing the events and awareness and all of you kick in to show your support louder than ever every year!On April 23, Denim Day will take place ALL OVER THE WORLD!!! Why denim? For the past 15 years, Peace Over Violence has run the Denim Day in L.A. and USA campaign on a Wednesday in April in honor of Sexual Violence Awareness Month.The campaign was originally triggered by a ruling by the Italian Supreme Court where a rape conviction was overturned because the justices felt that since the victim was wearing tight jeans she must have helped her rapist remove her jeans, thereby implying consent. The following day, the women in the Italian Parliament came to work wearing jeans in solidarity with the victim. Peace Over Violence developed the Denim Day campaign in response to this case and the activism surrounding it. Since then, wearing jeans on Denim Day has become a symbol of protest against erroneous and destructive attitudes about sexual assault. In this rape prevention education campaign we ask community members, elected officials, businesses and students to make a social statement with their fashion by wearing jeans on this day as a visible means of protest against the misconceptions that surround sexual assault. This year’s Denim Day will be held on April 23, 2014 and will focus on educating the community at large on the legal definition of consent.


As always, FREE denim ribbons will also be given to anyone who wants to show their support (and we'll even deliver, free of charge!). Reserve yours now, they go quickly!
Not in Winnemucca, NV but want to join an event? Find one here on the main website for Denim Day


Sunday, March 9, 2014

I Pledge...


I Got Flowers Today


"I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.

We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.

I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any special day.

Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.

I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today, and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.

Last night he beat me up again, and it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.

But I know he must be sorry. Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.

It was the day of my funeral.

Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death.

If only I had gathered the courage and strength to leave him.

I would not have gotten flowers today".